THE duel and his reactions emotional the darkness spreads at the speed of light: a love expands into the empty. /En the point of no return. Maria Mercedes Lafaurie) etymologically duel means pain and also challenge or battle between two. Grief is a normal reaction to a loss of a loved u object loved, is an experience that is part of existence. Freud States that mourning is a normal process and tends to evolve favourably by itself alone, without any therapeutic intervention. According to Bowlby theory links are established and are developed from early stages in life and tend to last throughout the life cycle, emerging basically as a response to the need for security. It describes the behaviors of attachment such as those that strengthen the link and preserve the nearness or proximity of the person in need. Therefore parental figures play an important role in the security from which, we explored the world and are those relationships that determine our subsequent ability to establish link of affection.
Jaramillo (1992) proposes that every achievement also entails a loss or renunciation and vice versa. In order to grow emotionally, we must leave behind roles, attitudes, illusions, identities or behaviors that correspond to a stage and replace them with others. All this entails duels as a response, and often are not aware of them without knowing the origin of feelings of sadness and pain that often arise in our lives as well. Even events that are happy in appearance are accompanied by unexplained sadness. A physical loss accompanied by symbolic losses, for example, a disability can generate symbolic losses such as loss of autonomy, sense of vulnerability, low self-esteem, etc. The duel is a transitional process. During the process of developing the person adapts to change that involves the loss of a dear person and accept the meaning of such loss. This vital crisis puts to the test our emotional stability.